Wednesday, 13 November 2013
Dissociative Identity Disorder (Multiple Personality Disorder)(4)
Dissociative Identity Disorder (Multiple Personality Disorder)(3)
Dissociative Identity Disorder (Multiple Personality Disorder)(2)
Dissociative Identity Disorder (Multiple Personality Disorder)
Asteroids: Formation, Discovery and Exploration
What Is Herpes? What Is Genital Herpes?
Tuesday, 12 November 2013
Schizophrenia: Schizophrenia Information & Treatment Introduction
Monday, 11 November 2013
The ‘Tooth’ About Pelagornithids
Figure it out yet? If you said “teeth” then award yourself one science and move to the top of the class! This is a bird, but with teeth. How strange is that? One of the more commonly used names for the group is the bony-toothed birds. To confuse matters more, these are not true teeth. Rather than being situated in alveoli and possessing a root, crown, enamel and dentine, pelagornithid ‘teeth’ are actually hollow bony outgrowths of the jaws (Mayr, 2011). It is believed that pelagornithids used these structures to trap their prey (squid, soft skinned fish) within their beak after they had taken it from the water, possibly as they skimmed the sea surface.
The second factor in the enigmatic nature of the pelagornithids is a taxonomic one. Despite being known to science for over 150 years (the first pelagornithid material was found in France in 1857 (Lartet, 1857)), nobody still has any real clue to which group the pelagornithids are most closely related to. Various analyses has seen them allied with the Pelecaniformes (pelicans and relatives) (most studies in late 19th and early 20th centuries), the Procellariiformes (albatrosses, petrels and relatives) (Harrison and Walker, 1976) and the Anseriformes (ducks and relatives) (Bourdon, 2005). They have even been placed in their own order, the Odontopterygiformes (Howard, 1957); such is their stubbornness to ally with one particular group. Finally, the most recent phylogenetic analysis has found that pelagornithids may have even been outside of Neoaves (the group that every living bird species belongs to) altogether! The title of one paper sums them up very well: Cenozoic mystery birds (Mayr, 2011)!
The third reason why pelagornithids are just that little bit special is their size. The largest flying bird alive today in terms of wingspan is the wandering albatross (Diomedea exulans), which has a wingspan of up to 3.5 m. A well preserved pelagornithid skeleton from the late Miocene of Chile, was found to have a skeletal wingspan alone that spanned 4.5 m. Once you add the large primary feathers to that skeleton you end up with a flying bird that had a wingspan of between 5.5 – 6 m. That is one seriously big bird! These animals were the biggest things in the skies since the pterosaurs went extinct some 66 million years ago. Perhaps the next time a seagull steals one of your chips when you’re at the beach, you should be grateful that it wasn’t one of these guys, who may have been more likely to take your whole hand off!
What Happens to Google Maps When Tectonic Plates Move?


I figured I’d Google the answer quickly and get back to Einstein, yet a search turned up remarkably little on the subject. So, as happens distressingly often in my life, what I thought would take 30 seconds ended up consuming a couple of days. I discovered a sizable infrastructure of geographers, geologists, and geodesists dedicated to ensuring that maps are accurate. But they are always a step behind the restless landscape. Geologic activity can create significant errors in the maps on your screens.
One of the people I talked to is Ken Hudnut of the U.S. Geological Survey, an earthquake researcher (and blogger) who set up one of the first GPS networks to track plate motions. “Say that you’re standing right in the middle of a road intersection with your GPS receiver and you get the coordinates for your position,” he says. “You look at Google Earth, and instead of being located right at the middle of the road intersection, you’re off by some amount.” Several factors produce these errors. Consumer GPS units have a position uncertainty of several meters or more (represented by a circle in Google Maps). Less well known is that maps and satellite images are typically misaligned by a comparable amount. “It’s partly the GPS hardware that limits the accuracy, and part of it may also be the quality of the georeferencing,” Hudnut says.
An interesting, if dated, study from 2008 looked at Google Earth images in 31 cities in the developed world and found position errors ranging from 1 to 50 meters. It’s not hard do to your own experiments. The image at left shows my position in Google Maps while I was standing on my back deck—a discrepancy of about 10 meters, much larger than the stated error circle. When I go to Google Earth and compare images taken on different dates, I find that my house jumps around by as much as 20 meters.
In the grand scheme of things, this isn’t much, but does make you wary of high zoom levels. Hudnut says he sees map bloopers in his field work all the time. As technology progresses, so will we all. “We’re fast approaching the day when people will expect accuracies of centimeters in real time out of their handheld devices and then we’ll see a lot of head scratching as things no longer line up,” says Dru Smith of the National Geodetic Survey in Silver Spring, Md., the nation’s civilian chief geodesist—the go-to guy for the precise shape and size of our planet.
For the most part, misalignments don’t represent real geologic changes, but occur because it’s tricky to plop an aerial or orbital image onto the latitude and longitude grid. The image has to be aligned with reference points established on the ground. For this purpose, NGS maintains a network of fixed GPS stations and, over the past two centuries, has sprinkled the land with survey marks—typically, metallic disks mounted on exposed bedrock, concrete piers, and other fixed structures. The photo at left shows one near my house. But the process of ground-truthing a map is never perfect. Moreover, the survey-mark coordinates can be imprecise or downright wrong.
NGS and other agencies recheck survey marks only very infrequently, so what a stroke of luck that a whole new community of hobbyists—geocachers—does so for fun. “One of the many things we no longer have money to do is send out people to make sure those marks are still there,” Smith says. “Geocachers, through this creation of a new recreation of going out and finding these marks, are sending in tons of reports.… It’s been helpful to us to keep the mark recoveries up to date.”
Errors also sneak in because the latitude and longitude grid (or “datum”) is not god-given, but has to be pegged to a model of the planet’s shape. This is where plate tectonics can make itself felt. Confusingly, the U.S. uses two separate datums. Most maps are based on NAD 83, developed by NGS. Google Maps and GPS rely instead on WGS 84, maintained by a parallel military agency, which, thanks to Edward Snowden, we now know has a considerably larger budget. The civilian one is optimized for surveying within North America; the military one sacrifices domestic precision for global coverage.
When NGS introduced NAD 83, replacing an older datum that dated to 1927, it was the geographic version of the shift from the Julian to the Gregorian calendar. If you’d been paying attention, you would have woken up on December 6, 1988, to find that your house wasn’t at the same latitude and longitude anymore. The shift, as large as 100 meters, reflected a more accurate model of Earth’s shape. Vestiges of the old datum linger. You still see maps based on NAD 27. Also, when the U.S. Navy developed the first satellite navigation system in the 1960s, engineers set the location of 0 degrees longitude by extrapolating the old North American datum. Only later did they discover they had drawn the meridian about 100 meters east of the historic Prime Meridian marker at the Royal Observatory in Greenwich. (Graham Dolan tells the whole, convoluted story on his website, the definitive reference on the meridian.)
NGS and its military opposite number worked together to align their respective datums, but the two systems have drifted apart since then, creating a mismatch between maps and GPS coordinates. Plate tectonics is one reason. WGS 84 is a global standard tied to no one plate. In essence, it is fixed to Earth’s deep interior. Geodesists seeking to disentangle latitude and longitude from the movements of any one particular plate assume that tectonic plates are like interlocking gears—when one moves, all do—and that, if you add up all their rotational rates, they should sum to zero. The effect of not tying coordinates to one plate is that surveyed positions, and the maps built upon them, change over time.
In contrast, NAD 83 sits atop the North American plate like a fishnet laid out on the deck of a boat. As the plate moves, so does the datum. Other regions of the world likewise have their own local datums. That way, drivers can find their way and surveyors can draw their property lines in blissful ignorance of large-scale tectonic and polar motion. “Most surveyors and mapmakers would be happy to live in a world where the plates don’t move,” Smith explains. “We can’t fix that, but we can fix the datum so that the effect is not felt by the predominant number of users.… Generally speaking, a point in Kansas with a certain latitude and longitude this year had that exact same latitude and longitude 10 years ago or 10 years from now.… We try to make the planet non-dynamic.”
To deepen the datum discrepancy, NAD 83 has not been revamped to account for improved knowledge of Earth’s shape and size. “We are currently working with a system that is very self-consistent and very internally precise, but we know, for example, that the (0,0,0) coordinate of NAD 83, which should be the center of the Earth, is off by about two meters,” Smith says. NGS plans an update in 2022, which will shift points on the continent by a meter or more (as shown in the figure at top of this post).
The tradeoff for keeping surveyors happy is that the North American latitude and longitude grid is increasingly out of sync with the rest of the world (as shown in the diagram at left, in which you can see how the North American plate is rotating about a point in the Yucatán). The “rest of the world” includes Southern California, which straddles the North American and Pacific plates. The Pacific plate creeps a couple of inches toward the northwest every year relative to the rest of North America. The plate boundary is not sharp, so the actual amount of movement varies in a complicated way. The California Spatial Reference Center in La Jolla has a network of tracking stations and periodically updates the coordinates of reference points in the state. “That’s what the surveyors then use to tie themselves into NAD 83,” says the center’s director, Yehuda Bock. The last update was in 2011 and another is planned for next year.
Like Smith, Bock says that more frequent updating would actually complicate matters: “Surveyors do not like it if coordinates change, so this is kind of a compromise.” For localized line-drawing, it doesn’t much matter, but large-scale projects such as the California high-speed rail system have to keep up with tectonic motion.
Things obviously get more interesting during earthquakes. “What the earthquake would do is the equivalent of what you do with a pair of scissors, if you cut diagonally across a map along a fault line and then slid one side of the map with respect to the other,” Hudnut says. For instance, in Google Earth, go to the following coordinates north of Palm Springs, near the epicenter of the 1992 Landers quake: 34.189838 degrees, –116.433842 degrees. Bring up the historical imagery, compare the July 1989 and May 1994 images, and you’ll see a lateral shift along the fault that runs from the top left to the bottom right of the frame. The alignment of Aberdeen Road, which crosses the fault, shifts noticeably. The quake displaced the land near the fault by several meters.
GPS networks can even see earthquakes in real time. Here’s a dramatic video of the 2011 Tohoko quake, made by Ronni Grapenthin at U.C. Berkeley based on data from the Japanese Geospatial Information Authority. The coastline near the quake site moved horizontally by as much as 4 meters. The video also shows the waves that rippled outward over Japan (and indeed the world).
Adjustments for tectonic activity take time to filter down to maps. I spoke with Kari Craun, who, as director of the USGS National Geospatial Technical Operations Center near St. Louis., is in charge of producing the USGS topographic maps beloved of outdoors enthusiasts. She says the maps are updated every three years (and even that pace has been hard to maintain with budget cuts). In between, mapmakers figure, the error is swamped by the imprecision of mapping and GPS equipment. Future maps may be updated at a rate closer to real-time. “We have the technology now with GPS to be able to make those slight adjustments on a more frequent basis,” Craun says. As someone who relies on Google Maps to get around, I look forward to that. But the romantic in me prefers seeing out-of-date maps. They never let us forget the dynamism of our planet.
Diagrams courtesy of Michael Dennis of the National Geodetic Survey; screenshot and photo by George Musser
Thursday, 7 November 2013
5 Questions To NEVER Ask Yourself
Life causes us to question ourselves, but not all thoughts that come to mind are beneficial for us.
In fact, many can be harmful and misleading.
Here are five of those undesirable questions that if you find yourself asking, you'd be wise to rephrase or reroute them.
Subtle differences in phrasing can make a big impact in your mind.
1. Why Am I Here?
Whether you got to this moment by a failed marriage, back surgery, a lottery ticket, or by bus, it doesn't matter for purposes moving forward. If you don't like your situation, the only way out is found in solutions for the present moment, and "why am I here?" moves your mindset backwards, away from solutions.
There's a better question that puts your focus in the present moment.
Better Question: Where do I go from here?
Quote: "You cannot change your destination overnight, but you can change your direction overnight." - Jim Rohn
2. Why Me?
This question sums up the victim's mindset. The main reason you don't want to be a victim is because victims only have things happen TO them. They can't take charge and control the situation, because their focus is not on what they can do, but on what happens to them. Would the opposite of this question give the opposite mindset of a victim? Yes, ask yourself the opposite...
Better Question: Why not me? (This is the possibility question!)
Quote: “To the dumb question, 'Why me?' the cosmos barely bothers to return the reply, 'Why not?'” - Christopher Hitchens
3. How Do I Lose Weight?
It doesn't look bad, but it is secretly horrible. Asking this question frames the problem (being overweight) for a temporary solution. Unless you're trying to make weight for your wrestling match, I doubt you want to lose weight and put it back on a month later. To explain why, here is the better question to tackle weight loss.
Better Question: Who do I need to be to weigh less?
This alternative question has an identity shift built into it as part of the solution, and these are the solutions that stick. Weight, after baseline genetic attributes, is a result of lifestyle, which stems from your identity. If you try to change with forced mechanical actions - like the answers to the question "how do I lose weight?" will lead you to do (exercise, eat vegetables, control portion size, etc) - your willpower will run out eventually.
"Who do I need to be?" changes the goal to an internal shift of values and habits that will automagically take you to a lower weight. It's sustainable because you'll have changed at the core level instead of forcing yourself to live against your established nature. To start the process of changing your identity, compare the benefits of a new identity to your current one. How would it be better? How would it be worse? Which do you like better overall?
"How do I lose weight?" makes you want the results, and "who do I need to be..." makes you want the change. When you want the change, you'll get the results. When you only want the results, you'll often end up with nothing.
Quote: "You must begin to think of yourself as becoming the person you want to be." - David Viscott
4. Why Won't Anyone Talk To Me?
Why won't you talk to anyone else? If you want to talk to someone, it isn't their responsibility to talk to you, but yours to talk to them. Every single conversation you have is either initiated by you or by someone else. If you never initiate conversation, it gives people the impression that you don't want conversation.
A better, more productive question to ask yourself when you're lonely is...
Better Question: Why don't I go introduce myself to that person?
Quote: "There are no strangers here; Only friends you haven't yet met." - William Butler Yeats
Bonus Quote: “Fear makes strangers of people who would be friends.” - Shirley MacLaine
5. When Will I Finally Succeed?
To ask this question shows that you're after the end result without caring about how you arrive at it. The "overnight success stories" you hear about are preceded by years of progress that you don’t hear about. Focus on becoming the type of person who would succeed. Focus on progress and you should find success eventually. But instead of thinking about success, here’s a better question...
Better Question: What small steps could I take today to move forward?
Quote: "If you focus on results, you will never change. If you focus on change, you will get results." - Jack Dixon
If you want to know why getting motivated doesn't work, read my Ultimate Guide For Taking Action When You Don’t Feel Like It. And if you want to learn how habits, focusing, and small steps all relate and can change your life, you would enjoy subscribing to Deep Existence. I write an insightful newsletter each Tuesday and give new subscribers a set of 40 focus wallpapers and my well-liked eBook, Stress Management Redefined. If you’re interested, sign up here. We’d love to have you!
How To Think Like A 21st Century Entrepreneur. Tips For Success And Getting Ahead In The Information Age.
Do you ever stop to wonder how rich people made their money?
Are they smarter than you?
Did they just work harder or smarter?
Or did they have a lucky break or some sort of advantage that let them reach their goals easily.
Worrying about all these questions is not a good thing to do if you want to create your own business.
Instead of worrying about what you can't change, it's much better to start thinking like a 21st century entrepreneur. They're much like entrepreneurs and businessmen from other time periods, but being in the early stages of the Information Age, quite a few differences also exist.
Tips to Succeed in Business (and Life)
Here's a collection of sage advice that will help you think like a modern entrepreneur. Following these tips and recommendations can give you an edge when competing against others in the business world.
● Seize the Day - As Saul Bellow wrote, it's important to seize the day. This includes being able to see opportunities and also have the foresight to act on them when they're noticed. This is not easy in the modern world that moves so quickly, but it's a good way to increase your chance of success in business and life in general.
● The Three Keys - If you want to succeed professionally in the 21st century, it all comes down to three basic things that you need; talent, persistence, and luck. While the first two are up to you, the last - getting a lucky break - may never happen. That is, unless you can do something to increase the odds you'll get lucky. This is the spirit of the modern entrepreneur.
● All About Balance - Learning moderation in all aspects of your life can go a long way in helping you have the right mindset to get ahead in the business world. This isn't always easy to do - especially with all the stress that comes with being a business leader - but with practice you can learn to balance work, play, rest and other aspects of your life.
● Ideas are Good, Results are Better - Thinking up ideas is not all that difficult for most people given enough time. On the other hand, actually taking those ideas and doing something with them is another matter entirely. The 21st century entrepreneur not only comes up with killer ideas, they act on them and take the lead no matter what industry they're in.
● Learn to Multitask - Being able to handle doing more than one thing at the same time is almost a necessity in the modern business world. The sooner you can learn to efficiently multitask, the sooner you'll begin to reach your goals and even surpass them. That or learn how to outsource easy tasks.
● Be the Change You Want to See - No one likes a whiner. Not even most mothers. Instead of complaining about something being wrong or corrupt and doing nothing, log-off of Facebook and Twitter and get to work changing the world for the better. This is what separates the leaders from the followers, the good from the great.
● Always be Learning - Technology moves so fast these days that it can be tough to stay up to date. This is essential for the 21st century entrepreneur who wants to achieve their goals, however. Taking time each week to stay well read in your industry can help your career considerably in a lot of different ways. If you can learn something new every day or every week, you're going to excel.
Life of the 21st Century Entrepreneur
The life of a 21st century entrepreneur may look boring and tedious to some, but this couldn't be further from the truth. Running your own business and becoming a leader is very exciting on many different levels. From the money that's made to the feelings of accomplishment as milestones are reached, the life of a modern entrepreneur is one that's very fulfilling.
Having said that, not everyone is cut out for the life of an entrepreneur. But if you work hard and take the advice above to heart, there's a good chance you can succeed. The Internet has been tremendously helpful with leveling the playing field for people just starting out. Some would say there's never been a better time to start a business, especially one that involves the Internet and mobile devices.
Deliver Your Speech Like A Pro By Using These 12 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of Public Speaking
Why is it that so many people are scared witless of speaking in public?
Surveys show that some of us are more afraid of public speaking than we are of death!
Too many of us have the idea that public speaking is a talent that you’re born with—or aren’t.
In truth, great speakers are made, not born and anyone can learn to deliver a speech like a pro.
Whether it’s speaking at a town hall meeting or making a presentation at work, most of us will have the need to step up to the podium at some time. Why not learn how to deliver an effective speech right now? Here are some hints for overcoming your fears and mastering the art of speaking in public.
Admit you’re scared.
The main underlying reason for the phobia about public speaking is fear of the unknown. You don’t know what’s going to happen when you get up there on the podium and open your mouth. Will you forget your speech? Will you lose your voice? Will people laugh at you? When you look at these fears rationally, they don’t make much sense. None of these are very likely, are they? Identifying your fear will help you to conquer it.
Face your fears.
When your fears are amorphous, free-floating things like ghosts, it’s easy to be afraid of them. Look carefully at each of your fears and face them, one at a time. Pretty soon, you’ll be so comfortable with those former fears that you’ll see how unimportant they really are. Vow to take on those fears and triumph over them. Sometimes you have to be willing to take the plunge and just do it!
Stop sabotaging yourself.
If you keep telling yourself that you can’t speak in public and will never be an effective speaker, then you won’t be one. Not because there’s any physical or organic reason you can’t do it, but because you’ve convinced yourself that you can’t. How do you even know if you’re terrible at something you’ve never tried? Instead, tell yourself that with a bit of work, you can be a good public speaker. Repeat his mantra over and over. Then get to work!
Take a public speaking course.
Anything is scary when you have no idea what you’re doing! Nothing can raise your confidence and allay your fears like taking a course in public speaking. Some companies make these a requirement for rising execs, but just about any of us can benefit from mastering the ins and outs of speaking before a crowd. You never know when you’ll want to protest your city’s trash collecting policies or help a friend run for local office.
We are making progress but now it’s time to make a plan and overcome your fear so you can deliver a compelling speech to your audience. Keep reading for some easy ways to put your fears to rest.
Have a plan.
You can start out by writing your speech on a piece of notebook paper and scribble changes in the margins, but before you actually deliver it, make a formal presentation. Start entering your text into a document with title, bullet points and subheds. Organize your information. Move topics around until you find the best order. The more coherent and organized your speech is, the easier it will be to deliver.
Be prepared.
Are you afraid of forgetting your lines? Rehearse until you have them down pat, and put your speech on cards or a tablet so that you can consult your notes if you need to. Worried about not having your props? Pack them in your bag ahead of time. If you’re lying in bed worrying about what could go wrong, isolate each possibility and ask yourself what you can do to prevent the problem. If you have to get out of bed and do something to help you be more prepared, then do it—provided you go back to bed and get a good night’s sleep!
Act confident, even if you don’t feel that way.
Remind yourself that the audience doesn’t know how scared you are.
While you may be thinking that everyone can see that your stomach is in knots and you feel like throwing up, they can’t see what’s going on inside your head (or your stomach). Fake it til you make it! Stand up straight, pull your shoulders back and put on a great big smile. Looking and acting confident can inspire trust in your audience—and distract them from the fact that your knees are knocking together.
Practice, practice, practice.
Set up your laptop or smartphone to make a video of your speech rehearsals. Look at the results with an open mind and see how you can improve your presentation. Don’t be too hard on yourself, but do note the things you can improve upon. Practice makes perfect, and this is the surest way to look at yourself from the outside and perfect your speech before giving it. If you have trouble pronouncing some words, maybe you should change them, or practice saying them until you get them right. The more often you deliver your speech, the better you will get at making your words flow effortlessly. For your very first speech, you may need to do this 20 or 30 times before you have it down, but the time spent will pay off in the long run. Every successive speech will be easier and require less prep time.
Record your performances.
Use that same phone or laptop to record every speech you deliver. Compare how the actual performance compares to your rehearsals. Strive to make every speech better than the last.
Breathe deeply and relax.
Practice a few breathing exercises to help you relax before going onstage. The calmer and more relaxed you feel, the more you can concentrate on delivering your speech.
Don’t get rattled.
If you do forget a point or make a mistake, just take a deep breath and keep moving ahead. No one expects you to be perfect, so why expect it of yourself? We know from watching last year’s presidential debates that practically every candidate made a gaffe or two at some time. If the people who want to run this country can’t get everything right all the time, it’s not very realistic to expect perfection from the rest of us! Don’t take it too seriously.
Reward yourself for a job well done.
After you’ve successfully delivered your speech, give yourself a pat on the back. Congratulate yourself for overcoming your fears. You’ve achieved a milestone, and any speech you give in the future will be much easier!
11 Simple Ways to Fall in Love With Yourself
Whenever we think of falling in love we always imagine another person involved. It even feels awkward to utter the phrase “I’m starting to fall in love with myself”. Try it on for size and I bet it’ll feel like shirt that’s too small, something about it just doesn’t feel right.
We’ve all reached the point of needing to love ourselves more. Maybe the thought arose after you’ve been taking care of another person for too long, or maybe you’re just burnt out and need to pour some energy back into yourself.
You’re feeling drained, wiped, out of touch and something just feels a little off. Sometimes a little love is all you need. A dash of that feeling has the potential to take on a life of its own.
You’ve felt love, usually for another. This time we’re going to flip the script and direct this awesome force back to the one who deserves it the most, you.
You Already Know How to Love Yourself, You’ve Just Forgotten
If you don’t love the place you’re at or the person you’ve become, it’s not your fault. The act of loving is a simple process you can reignite and start again. The beauty is once you ignite the spark of love in your life, it can start a fire that can be hard to turn off.
Even a torrential downpour will have a hard time turning off your love. Once you learn the art of filling yourself up, you’ll no longer have to seek out others to turn on that feeling in you. You won’t feel like you have to chase love, or there’s ever a lack of it in your life.
To use a beautiful illustration. Pretend you’re a bucket and you’re trying to fill someone else up. You try and try but at the end of the day you’re still empty. You want to learn how to create your own faucet. That way you can fill yourself up whenever you're in need and even give a little extra to a loved one, friend, or stranger.
It’s time to unveil the art of loving.
1. Take a breath.
Taking a deep breath is one of the simplest luxuries we can give ourselves. When we breathe deeply we activate the relaxation response within our bodies, which turns on our recovery mechanisms. When the body is relaxing it puts our mind at ease. Face it, no one like to be a bundled up ball of stress.
Stress produces cortisol, which is incredibly bad for your body, and acts as a cancer causing agent. Definitely not the product of someone loving themselves.
So, take a deep breath and let it out slow. Focus on the moment and give your body and mind a treat.
2. Give yourself a hug.
When giving a hug, your body releases the feel-good chemical oxytocin. Oxytocin is also known as the love chemical.
Imagine you’re about to hug someone you have the deepest love for. Maybe it’s a long lost love, or a family member you haven’t seen in a while. Imagine the powerful force of this hug and how you would feel the moment before impact.
Channel this feeling into yourself. Wrap your arms around yourself as you would them. Imagine them giving you love back. Really take some time to feel it deeply. The more real you make it the more its power will stick with you.
Eventually, the love you’re pretending to exchange with another should be the same level of love you feel for yourself.
3. Give yourself a compliment.
What’s something you truly love about yourself? It could be your drive or ambition, or your friendliness and openness. It could even be your luscious curly hair. The only catch is you have to mean it. Really feel the love shower upon you as you give yourself this compliment.
It might feel strange to verbally give yourself a compliment, but it’s important. You must push through the discomfort and really take the compliment. What emotions does it trigger? Does it make you laugh, smile or feel funny?
Let the feeling rush over you. Take the compliment, there’s many more to come.
4. Turn off your phone, unplug.
The immense amount of time we spend with our devices can actually leave us feeling worse about ourselves. The constant stream of false positiveness streaming down your Facebook wall can leave you feeling drained and awful. The world can fill us up with life, if we let it.
When we’re wrapped up in virtual worlds, we allow the subtle beauty that’s unfolding around us to pass us by. The smile of a stranger, the wag of a dogs tail, a leaf slowly twirling to the ground. We miss everything.
When we’re actually aware of the world around us we can gain new insights about ourselves and the nature of how things unfold. Take some time and be a part of it. Take a breath and try being present.
Sending that text can wait.
5. Go for a walk.
A healthy body is one that’s treated with love and respect. Walking gives us time to process the world around us. The act of walking gives you time to breathe and contemplate your future. Some of the greatest minds of our world were avid workers, Albert Einstein and Henry David Thoreau, just to name a few. How would you like to join the class of these fine men?
Walking can even be taken up as a form of meditation. Focusing on each step fully draws you into the moment. Try and cultivate your gratitude for the ability to take a slow stroll. Your worries melt away and you begin to uncover the self love you’ve always had.
6. Smile.
In changing your body physiology you actually bring more happiness into your life. When you smile imagine the force of your smile bringing a warmth throughout your entire body. Let your smile fill with gratitude and joy for every aspect of yourself.
Imagine you were smiling at the love of your life, take this passion and throw it into your upward grin.
Now unleash the force of your smile onto yourself.
7. Write down a big dream of yours and take a step towards it, now.
Take out a sheet of paper and title it “My Biggest Dreams”, and dream away.
Let the pen run and see where it takes you. Hold an attitude of openness, and don’t judge anything that comes out.
Once you’ve spilled your guts onto the page, relax for a moment and let it simmer. See what jumps out at you the most. Something you’ve written will ring true and make you emotional. This is where you want to stake your claim.
Once you’ve found the hidden gem, take one step towards making it real. The momentum will bring you to life.
8. Treat Yourself
Often we spoil others with our gifts, even if it just happens to be our attention. This time do something to spoil yourself. It could be a going out to a meal you love, or visiting a place you love to go.
Think of it like taking yourself on a date. We all know you deserve it.
9. Write down five things you love about yourself.
This is an extension of giving yourself a compliment. If you’ve passed #3 with flying colors then you’re ready for this step. Your goal here is to find more things you love about yourself and write them down.
Don’t do this half assed. You must truly mean each thing you write down about yourself.
10. Look in the mirror and say, “I love myself”.
This is taking loving yourself to the next level. Open your eyes and gaze deeply into one of your eyes (it’s impossible to do both at once), and feel the love coming from within.
Imagine you were uttering this phrase to someone you love deeply.
Say it out loud as many times as possible. Engage with it fully. The more intensely you feel it, the more love it will bring back to you.
11. Send a note of gratitude to someone you love.
When you share your love it always finds a way to come back to you. Sometimes giving away your love makes it come back tenfold. Think of someone you care deeply about and tell them.
Tell them what you love about them, the little things they do that you appreciate and make your day.
Now you have a plethora of ways to open up your heart to yourself. Begin now, and start small. Soon you’ll be overflowing with abundance and love.
Now that you are on the path to falling in love with yourself make sure you take some time to find out how to accept your destiny and build the ultimate form of confidence.
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